Do you find yourself continuously perturbed and distressed by other people’s choices and actions or by situations not happening 100% your way?
According to spiritual teacher, Eckhart Tolle, whose teachings are based on acceptance, it is our resistance to situations that is the true cause of our emotional pain and suffering and not the actual situation itself.
Resistance or non-acceptance robs us of the opportunities each moment and experience is always offering because we get caught in the mental position that the undesirable situation should not have happened.
Acceptance therefore becomes the key to our freedom and peace of mind
One of our main challenges with acceptance however, is the misguided belief that acceptance of an undesirable situation means that we agree with it, condone it, or even like it.
By no means this is what acceptance is. Instead it is the acknowledgement that the situation occurred and there is nothing we can do to change the fact that it did. “Acceptance is not submission; it is an acknowledgment of the facts of a situation. Then deciding what you’re going to do about it.” – Kathleen Casey Theisen
Our true power actually lies in surrendering to the gift of the moment, which then allows us to maintain our inner peace and mental clarity, which helps us to make the best decisions for all involved.
According to Eckhart Tolle, “When you live in complete acceptance of what is, that is the end of all the drama in your life.”
The practice of acceptance has been a life changing experience for me. It has helped me to move beyond unconsciously reacting to truly responding to situations based on how I choose to experience it.
I must admit living from the space of acceptance is without a doubt a continuous practice, which requires your conscious attention in each moment. However, the more you practice accepting all of life, over time, it will become a part of you and a natural way of being.
Here are 5 ways I practice acceptance in each moment. Try practicing them and then let me know your practice. I bet your life will never be the same :).
1. Allow others to be who they choose to be without trying to change them or make them wrong.
2. Remind yourself that the only thing you have 100% control over is you and how you experience any situation.
3. Create an affirmation you can use when faced with situations that are usually unacceptable to you. Eg. “This moment is happening exactly as it is meant to be.”
4. Instead of identifying all of the reasons why the situation or person is wrong, practice asking yourself, “What is this situation or person trying to show me.”
5. Make a conscious decision to prioritize your inner peace. When you make your inner peace a priority, accepting what is becomes easier.